In the case of a failed marriage, it can lead to emotional and psychological trauma. Meaning, you trust less and shut people for fear that they would break your heart. You are afraid to become attached again once you experience being hurt. You’ve become so damaged that when you meet someone who can give what you deserve, you don’t know how to respond. Relationships are about trust. Once broken, it’s difficult to patch again.
In getting over a failed marriage, women experience less stress and better adjustment in general than do men. The reasons for this are that women are more likely to notice marital problems and to feel relief when such problems end, are more likely than men to rely on social support systems and help from others, and are more likely to experience an increase in self-esteem when they divorce/separate and add new roles to their lives.
Men are usually confronted with greater emotional adjustment problems than women. The reasons for this are related to the loss of intimacy, the loss of social connection, reduced finances, and the common interruption of the parental role. Men remarry more quickly than women.
In the past, we read that children coming from broken family suffered from depression. Conflict is viewed as the single most critical determining factor in children’s adjustment. The children who succeed after the separation of parents have parents who can communicate effectively and work together as parents.
A child’s continued involvement with both of his or her parents allows for realistic and better balanced future relationships. Children learn how to be in a relationship by their relationship with their parents. One important factor which contributes to the quality and quantity of the involvement of a father in a child’s life is mother’s attitude toward the child’s relationship with the father.
Separated women are less likely to remarry than divorced/separated men. However, it may be harder for men than women to rebound with a new partner. This isn’t to say that breakups aren’t also hard for women. They are. Both divorced/separated men and women suffer poorer physical and emotional health. But the harmful effects are stronger for men because they receive less support from friends or family, in part because men may be less likely to seek out this support. Women have an easier time seeking for assistance.
Failed marriage has many strange consequences. It is very easy to say that you should not cry over spilled milk and move on. If your marriage doesn’t work out, you will have trouble bringing trust back to your other relationships. A failed marriage has many other side effects.
A failed marriage can make you lose confidence in yourself. You might blame yourself for the breakup and feel incompetent to handle a relationship as serious as marriage. You might also submerge yourself in work because you don’t want to think about your failed marriage at all.
Once you lose faith in the concept of marriage, you will have trouble in bringing trust back into your relationship. Your mistrust will include everybody; your friends, your siblings and even your parents. A failed marriage can make you bitter from within. You may become very negative about various things in life, especially in relationships.
Just keep the positivity in your life alive because being pessimistic about everything never helps. Never fear the effects that broken marriage can have on your life and personality. Life is what you make it.
