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Child sexual harassment: what does it mean to you?

Every day we hear a new story about sexual harassment suffered by a girl or a boy our age, or our siblings' age…
One girl on her way to school, another by one of her relatives, or the neighbours, or a stranger.
For me and the girls my age, we are living through a transitional stage of life.
We are entering adolescence, our bodies are starting to change, we feel that we have begun to belong to the world of grown-ups, and we have started to attract attention.
In the street we hear some catcalls: words and phrases through which they try to get close to us.
Sometimes they are nice, and sometimes they are obscene and hurtful.
(What does harassment mean?)

Harassment is a crime

In both cases this is called harassment, and I never find myself happy to hear it, however much flattery and flirting it may carry.
Nobody has the right to catcall me or you in the street, in the mall or anywhere else.
Especially when we know that very often verbal harassment turns into physical harassment, and the harasser goes further in his lack of morals and religion, exploits our fear and our silence, and may assault us physically.
The important thing is that in these situations, depending on the circumstances, I must keep as far away as possible from the harasser, try to get help from an adult to stop him, and tell my family what happened as soon as possible.
(Harassment is a crime)
My sisters, harassment is not a right of young men and men; no, it is a crime.
And it is an even bigger crime when it happens inside our own small community, that is, sadly, at the heart of our families.
This is the greatest shock. That is when we feel how close the danger is to us without our knowing.
Yes… these are facts… and any girl our age could also be a victim of this ugly experience.
Me… you, boy… you, girl… we are all exposed to sexual harassment.
And there are some things that, at our age, we need to learn about to protect ourselves from harassment.
(What should I do?)
Why don't we start by asking our parents about the subject? I can ask my mother directly, even if she has not talked to me about it.
I can ask her: How do I tell sexual harassment apart from other actions?
What is the right way to deal with a harasser?
How do I protect myself?
And the important thing is never to be afraid of being blamed if I am harassed. The harasser is the guilty one, not me. Yes, he is the guilty one. I should explain to my family in detail what happened to me, and wait for their advice and guidance.
(Knowledge is a weapon)
And since we belong to the internet age, why don't I make use of the sea of information in my hands, and start searching it for what protects me from harassment and for useful information about it?
Knowledge is a powerful weapon for the girls of our generation, and I personally have benefited a lot in my life from this weapon.
In addition, of course, to the weapon of the law, which should be the strongest in society.
It is true that in the eyes of the law I am a minor. But I personally have taken on, and still take on, the responsibility of protecting myself and making the right decisions for my life.
With my family, my knowledge and my right conduct, I am largely able to confront harassment and not allow the harasser to hurt me.
And you too are able to do that.

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