Coming from a young adult, divorce is not the best experience anyone can go through. For those who have gone through or are now experiencing divorce as a kid or a young adult, you are not alone in this. Divorce is a harsh word to some who have experienced it with their parents or family members, or who are going through it themselves. Dealing with divorce amongst siblings fighting, picking sides of parent(s) or families can get very tiring. Some think marriage can be happiness and last a lifetime. You have your ups and downs, and they keep you going with that one person and your family. Sadly, divorce has become common in the United States. According to the CDC, in 2011 the number of marriages where are 2,118,000, the rate of marriage was 6.8 per 1,000 total population, and the divorce rate was 3.6 per 1,000 total population. In the map of U.S. Divorce Rates of 2011, the rate are higher in the following cities; Panama, FL, Sierra Vista, AZ, and Charleston, WV, Medford, OR, Reno, NV. Even though social scientists have tried to debunk those myths, somehow the conventional wisdom has held.
In Black’s Law Dictionary defines divorce as (a legal separation of a man and wife, effected, for cause, by the judgement of a court, and other totally dissolving the marriage relation and suspending its effects so far as concerns the cohabitation of the parties.) When children are involved, things can become complicated, when determining who acquires the children on weekends, holidays, summer, and during school years. Even for couples for whom it appears divorce is imminent, that doesn’t negate the need to work together on the kids’ behalf. Children (and adult children) have the attitude that their parents should be able to work through and solve any issue. Parents, who have given the children life, are perceived by the children as very competent people with supernatural abilities to meet the needs of the children. The financial part of the divorce is where the court determines who is awarded alimony, or child support.
During a divorce, changes to relationships could cause division among family and friends. For divorce, there is advantages and disadvantages, but know that you are not the only one experiencing. Connecting with the children and spouses, keeping the line of communication open as the children are understanding the divorce. From this article, I want to encourage you that it’s not easy but it does get better, and to apply the information by seeking a counselor for you and your loved ones.
